0:05The meeting began with an introduction to the Nurtured Heart Approach during a session called Parent University. Jessica Smedley, the district’s director of counseling, emphasized the approach’s potential impact on the school community, aiming to create a positive climate for students, staff, and families. Attendees were informed that the session was an introduction rather than comprehensive training, with further opportunities for engagement available.

Pemma Nong, a Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion coordinator, explained the core philosophy of the Nurtured Heart Approach, which focuses on fostering positive relationships with children. Originally designed for students with intense or high-energy behaviors, the approach has shown benefits for all students. Nong highlighted that traditional disciplinary methods often fail to connect with students deemed difficult, as these children seek relationships rather than mere attention. The approach reframes intensity as a positive trait, encouraging children to recognize their strengths.

John Walton, a seventh-grade school counselor, expanded on the limitations of conventional discipline, which often do not resonate with intense students. He introduced the concept of “building inner wealth,” which involves creating a positive portfolio of experiences for students. Walton emphasized the importance of acknowledging progress and attempts toward positive behavior rather than solely focusing on successful outcomes.

16:15The session also highlighted the importance of language and energy in interactions with children. The focus was on shifting towards positive or neutral energy, particularly when addressing undesirable behaviors. The concept of “absolutely no and absolutely yes” was introduced as a guiding principle for managing interactions, emphasizing that ignoring negative behavior can inadvertently reinforce it. Instead, adults are encouraged to recognize and affirm positive behaviors.

Instead of generic praise, adults are encouraged to articulate specific positive behaviors and connect them to character traits. This approach helps children build a positive self-perception and recognize their capabilities.

34:07Traditional disciplinary measures were scrutinized, with a focus on their effectiveness in fostering long-term behavioral change. The cyclical nature of negative behavior was discussed. The potential for alternative approaches that prioritize connection and understanding was emphasized, with “timeouts” reimagined as opportunities for students to regroup rather than punitive measures.

The discussion drew parallels between educational environments and video games, where clear rules and immediate feedback foster engagement. The speaker highlighted how the structure and incentives in gaming could benefit classroom management. The emphasis was on creating a supportive environment that rewards positive behavior and encourages students to recognize their potential.